Days of Girlhood
- Sarah O'Dell
- Apr 8, 2024
- 5 min read
As this controversy arouses the internet, I sat back and reflected upon the outrage. Personally I do not care about the song. She can sing it and write it all she wants. Just as Hollywood Undead can sing “Everywhere I Go” and it continues to be an offensive bop that somehow gets a free pass. As do many songs. Often times I believe that the songs that get a pass are due to the fact that it is obviously not meant to be taken seriously. Or the culture was a different level of “normal.” Each case is specific in the analysis of why it becomes offensive or why it is accepted even though it has offensive content. Some would say “art is the act of getting away with it.” Or something to that extent. However, I believe that people can sense into a subconscious intention behind the song. Which would make it shadow work for their soul if it is triggering them. However, it can also be a sign of shadow work if it is not offending you. It is truly person specific. I believe the issue with Dylan Mulvaney and why her song is viewed as offensive is because it is filled with shame and weaponized phrases against women. It is not what she said, it’s how she said it. Her verbiage gave a vibe that this is how men see women. Even men who want to be women, believe this is what it means to be a woman. It is not phrasing or energetic expression of empowerment. There is no irony or sarcasm. No punch line to the patriarchy. Her downfall is in her genuineness. Which I believe is why women are hurt and upset with the song. A biological man, who they honored into their realm and nurtured into transforming into a women, is mocking us with the same stereotypes that men use against us.
